On Maintaining My Sanity Over the Last Decade

In less than two weeks I turn 30.

Starting a new year as well as a new decade of my life has me in a rather reflective mood.

In the past ten years Noah and I have gotten married, moved six times, had four children, been unemployed, worked nights, been on WIC, racked up and paid off debt, started homeschooling, lived in a bus and built a house, in addition to other personal periods of challenge and growth.

And that’s just off the top of my head.

It’s been a very… turbulent period of time for us and I don’t think that it’s quite how most people of my generation spend their twenties.

I’m hopeful that this next year (and decade!) brings a lot more stability and time to regroup and allows us to be more intentional with our time rather than simply putting out fires and reacting to situations as they occur. Looking back, it seems like it’s been ten years of almost sheer survival mode. But, hey – we survived! And the times when I was clinging to the precipice of sanity with barely the tips of my fingers, I was usually brought back from the edge by one of these three things:

1. My marriage. The state of my marriage affects every single other aspect of my life and if our foundation is strong, then we are pretty much unbeatable. We have gone through lots of unpleasant situations over the past decade, but I mean it when I say that I would rather face the worst with Noah than have the “best” with anybody else.

2. A strong support system. We are extremely fortunate to be surrounded by wonderful people who care for and invest in our family. Our extended family, friends and neighbors have prayed for us, spent time with us, and helped us when we needed it. Having a strong support system in place is a privilege that many people don’t have and I am very grateful.

3. Faith. It is sometimes difficult for me to write about my beliefs in a serious and public way, but I can’t leave out the fact that there have been so many times over the past ten years where the only credit that can be given as to why things didn’t go horrifically wrong or why I didn’t lose my ever loving mind is simply due to the grace of a loving God. My relationship with God has definitely evolved and changed and grown since I was twenty. I have learned a lot more about what it means to me to be a Christian – as well as what it definitely does NOT mean – and I am still working out (with fear and trembling) how that relationship should be lived out in the real world with real people. Going through this process while raising four small children has been humbling, to say the least.

On that note, I am not sure whether or not I’ll be continuing to blog in the coming year. As much as I enjoy it, it is time consuming and expensive if I continue to pay for self-hosting, so there will probably be some kind of change occurring in the following month or so as I decide whether to switch over to a free hosting site, which would make a lot more sense for me at this point. I’ll keep y’all posted.

Have a lovely 2017.

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4 thoughts on “On Maintaining My Sanity Over the Last Decade

  1. Time has been more fun and entertaining by you taking time to share.

    Thanks for taking the time. Things like this contribute to the Special Effects on the journey. Time in itself is a Very Rare Commodity.

    You both have done very well. The lows and highs are the points of memory to reflect on that we might not be able to revisit otherwise.

    It is a good thing that you have experienced them in the order that you have…. far too many people have experienced it in the opposite. It’ so much better to remember how tough it was rather than how tough it is.

    Have a Great Day……. Oh, Why Stop There…. Let’s all make this a Great (NEW) Year as well! We have so many things to be Thankful For.

    Pops

  2. Thank you for the update, love seeing you in your new house! I feel like I’ve gained a new friend through your blog and always enjoyed hearing what was happening to you and your adventurous family! God bless you as you move forward, and if it is time to focus on other things, that is ok! I pray that each year brings you closer to your husband, to God, and you continue to grow in faith, love and joy! I wouldn’t wish you back in that little bus for anything! 😀

  3. So very much enjoy your blog and have been missing you for months. And thankful with you for the things which have sustained you through an unpredictable decade – faith, family (a great husband is truly a gift!), humility. Because without true humility, there would be no room for a support system to encourage and invest into your family.

    Your posts are a delight and your writing style engaging. Coming along for the journey has been fun and full of laugh-out-loud moments as you so vividly described your experiences. Thank you!

    Continued blessings to you and your family.

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